This is purely a rant but I found myself judgmental of middle-aged traveling businessmen who "request to be discrete" when I meet them at their hotel lobby or something. I am just judgmental of people who are ashamed of their own desires (dude you're literally in a different city, and being a grown man if you do sth you own it right? even I in my 20s understood such), ashamed of my existence...like I am very proud of my own and also there's nothing inherently flashy/showy/tasteless in my public presentation either.

Anyways, this is also a generic question: how do you guys cope when you're just catching slightly unpleasant vibes (nothing really safety-wise concerning but just me judgemental about them/certain behaviors, e.g. pretentious, making a fuss over my shortest appt available) before meeting a new person and not just lol villify him in your own mind before proceeding with the meeting? Just what are some of your mental practice to help minimize the uncertain feeling prior to a new meeting?

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Hmm on second thought I feel like how others comport themselves it's their business...I'm just here to finish a deal if you fulfill my minimal terms and whatever you choose to behave can't really change how I am/choose to be right...but still appreciate any mental hygiene tips in regard to this! ❤️