I feel as though I’m living in an alternate universe. Have any of you had this experience? What have you told the provider who reaches out?

Technically, both men are “safe,” but huuuuuuge boundary crossers. It took me longer than it should have to “fire” them because they were a large portion of my income. However, I reached the point where I had to accept that money costs too much.

The first client did not reach out to let me know. I received an inquiry through email from a provider who asked me about my experience. This man is a literal disaster - he began leaving me long winded voicemails while he was intoxicated asking me to marry him and became weirdly jealous.

The second client discovered my legal name and home address. He started sending me random items from Amazon. It was terrifying. When I confronted him (this was not the first time he crossed boundaries), he sent me paragraphs about how he feels “he has to walk on egg shells around me.” And how he is “so hurt” because he thought “we were friends.” Then proceeded to call me ungrateful (among the items were 5 adult coloring books. Literally i can’t). Finally, after not speaking since July, I receive a $25 CashApp with an attached message that said “May I use you as a reference?” If I wasn’t so concerned about all of our safety, it would be so comical.

I feel as if I’m living in an alternate universe, LOL. The level of delusion these two men have is shocking. Why would they think I would give them glowing reviews?

The first client, I told the provider he was safe, but that he has major boundary crossing issues and to be aware. I’m not sure how to deal with this second inquiry. I fear that if I am honest, and she decides to go through with the booking, she may share those details with him that would put me at risk.

I did BL both of these men for their behavior - so if they consult the list it’s there for them to clearly see.

I need advice about how to proceed with this second client. Has anyone ever dealt with this?