My girlfriend grew up in a rougher neighborhood than me. While I was going to parties with posh girls, she was with drug dealers and thugs. For a long time she was in an on-again-off-again relationship with one such black guy. He was a dealer, had spent time in prison too. He could me controlling and cruel but "had a certain power over" her. I knew instantly what that meant.

Over the course of our relationship I've subtly managed to get more information about it.

He, of course, had a big cock: 9.5". Incredible stamina and an ability to go again quickly. He was strong and dominant. She even said she felt so degraded by the fact he clearly just saw her as "holes to use".

But the really intense part was how much she "used to" miss it. He had been arrested again not long before we started going out. She drunkenly admitted not long ago that our first time together was a disappointment and that for a while she fantasised about him. I am not sure I believe that that has magically stopped.

Whenever he's got out of jail before they've ended up back together. That's a constant worry for me.