My wife (f41) and I (m38) are headed to Hedo for the first time this November. We are extremely new to the lifestyle and still feeling things out. We have had one soft-swap experience and we think that is our comfort zone for now. We are looking forward to meeting some like-minded people (experienced or not) that we could hang out with and show us the ropes.

One thing we have both worried about is that we are very picky. My wife is sort of into girls but only if they are very attractive. She also does not like men who are overly well-endowed… we take good care of ourselves and really appreciate that in other couples. Being new to this world, how do you let another couple know that you aren’t interested without hurting any feelings? We don’t mean to sound mean or vain but we want to be comfortable in our new experience.

We are equally, if not more excited, about just making some great friends. We just don’t want to not make a friendship with someone because we don’t want to engage with them sexually and have them get upset if they see us with a different couple later.

Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated! I promise we are super nice, easy going people! Just new and nervous testing the waters!

Thanks!