Thinking about it, have questions.

My wife and I are discussing scheduling a trip. We have never done anything like this before and are not in the lifestyle. We are. Very kinky and have shared fantasies about her playing with other women. She doesn't want to play with other guys but is ok with them watching or participating with their partner only.

First question, is this scenario common or are most couples expecting a full swap?

Secondly, in this situation is it common or uncommon for the men to "play" together? I'm bi curious as well and have fantasized about giving head. My wife frequently pegs me but I have also wondered what the real thing would be like? Seems like it would be really hot to be fucked while going down on my wife. Anyway......

What are the chances of MY fantasies being fulfilled? I know a ff / mm swap is uncommon.

TIA