I second this. I used to get terrible razor burn and after a few rounds of laser hair removal I still have about 40% of the hair but it’s softer, lighter and much easier to shave.

I think you’re overreacting. She said he mentioned that he prefers bald but probably wouldn’t care either way. That doesn’t sound like someone that needs to get over themselves or won’t be a “kind and careful hookup.”

I have a strong preference that all my hook ups are smooth because it makes sex much more enjoyable for me to rub my tongue or private parts on smooth skin and not end up with rug burn from scratchy hairs. I had one partner who’s pubes were so scratchy that it left my vulva raw for days and I would rather not have sex that deal with that again. Requesting this of my partners is part of choosing to prioritize taking care of my body and my sensitive skin.

Many of my partners have expressed the same preference, and they were all kind, accepting and loving people who I felt very respected by. If that is someone’s preference, it is fine for them to express it, and then it is up to you to decide if you would like to groom or not.

No one should make you feel bad for the way your body looks, your grooming choices, OR your preferences during hookups. It doesn’t seem like this boy was trying to make her feel bad or put undue pressure on her. Open communication prior to hookups is healthy and this seems like an example of that.