Bisexual woman here, 25, seeking advice and etiquette tips for meeting partners at ComicCon and similar nerd spaces.

F4M: - What are some do’s and don’ts for approaching guys at ComicCon without coming across as creepy? If I spot someone cute and they're not nearby, I have to get over there quickly to avoid losing them in the crowd, but I don't want to appear creepy by maintaining eyes contact or looking like I’m following him. There’s just a lot of people!!! - Is ComicCon inclusive enough that if I see mixed-gender groups or people holding hands, I can ask the guy out without offending anyone, even if he's there with a partner (they might be poly)? - If I ask a guy in a straight-presenting couple out, how progressive and Queer-friendly is the space? Can I expect most women to be respectful when declining because they're in a monogamous relationship?

F4F: - I don't have good gaydar (I'm Autistic) and always fear asking cute girls out in non-exclusively Queer spaces. Even on apps like Bumble, there are many straight girls. Typically, when I ask a girl out who then identifies as straight, it causes a commotion. They often get upset, feel their day is ruined, and sometimes react with disgust or mean comments. Ugh, homophobia, right?

Is the vibe at ComicCon generally Queer/progressive enough that girls won’t react negatively if I ask them out and will be able to decline in a non-homophobic manner if they aren’t interested?