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my dad says a lot of shit like “can’t wait till i die” or “if x i could finally die” and stuff and i know that he says it as a “joke” and it may sound funny but considering his history and the fact that i did that too when i was suicidal it really isn’t. After corona he just stopped going out whatsoever and just worked, he’s really good at what he does and always was. Insanely intelligent guy to the point where it’s scary. When i once argued with him and told him i tried to kms he said “and so what i tried it a too when i was your age” - i was 12.. Never seen him cry and when i look him in the eyes all i see is some deep melancholy. He refuses to go to therapy or at least that’s what my mom told me. I feel like he thinks he’s being used for money and just wants to shit out a pile of gold and die. I love this guy tho, wtf do i do? he’s not a “feelings guy” and has basically a fully math/number wired brain. How the fuck do i get him out?
it's clear he doesn't want to.
Your judgemental, leaping to conclusions comment shows a severe lack of understanding of how depression/suicidal thoughts works. It's often extremely difficult to reach out and ask for help when you're feeling that low, and you have no fucking clue what's happening behind the scenes. He may feel undeserving of love/support, and like a big burden on everyone else. if that's the case, why the fuck would he want to reach out for support?
What OP COULD do to support their dad is talk to an adult that they know in person and trust about how to handle the situation, reassure their dad that they love them and encourage their dad to seek help, and work with both a mental health professional and their dad to make a safety plan in case shit hits the fan, be there with him as he calls a crisis hotline or a therapist to set up an appointment, and make sure to take care of themselves.
Please do some research before commenting again.
Just because someone doesn't have a solid plan on how to end their life does not mean it's not serious and meriting support. I'm sure you mean well but you come off as invalidating of other people struggling with depression.
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> I mean with this is that it might be a matter of days until he puts them in action.
I get you now, and maybe my wording was too blunt-my bad on that. Even without a plan, impulsive thoughts of sucide can pop up suddenly with little warning and those are worrisome too.
I did a little bit of research and it seems like it's really hard to figure out which people are more or less likely to make an attempt, and I kept tripping over "if you're struggling, call 988!" type things, which just got in the way.