Just finished the 4th date with a girl that’s been all over me. We could have easily had sex after the 3rd, but I refrained (still haven’t disclosed).

We were just out at the bar when she told me to finish the rest of her beer. I finished it off, put it down on the table, and jokingly said, “am I going to catch your cooties now?” And she unexpectedly replied, “no, you won’t catch my oral herpes.” At first I thought there was a chance she was being serious, but I knew she was making a herpes joke. So I pressed on and said, “well how do I know that?” She replied, “well because I don’t have oral herpes.” To which I replied, “and how do you know that?” And she goes, “well, I guess I don’t know that. But I’ve never had cold sores.

I was impressed that she knew this much about herpes to be honest, but she didn’t know she could be carrying it asymptomatically, and she didn’t know that 65% of the world has HSV-1. As we were leaving in the parking lot she goes, “I can’t believe you actually thought I had oral herpes. I’m a little insulted (again, jokingly). But now I was a bit pissed off.

For the record, I have genital HSV-2. My blood test also detected antibodies for HSV-1, although I can’t recall ever having a cold sore. Now I’m scared to tell this girl I have HSV-2 after what her view on oral herpes was. But the other part of me wants to tell her so bad to give her an education lesson. Also, I think if I tell her, she would actually be the type to be understanding and accepting of me, considering how much she likes me. I think she will be extremely embarrassed from making those comments tonight.

With all that being said, I did leave feeling extremely hurt. This shit sucks man, there’s no denying that. I applaud those that are optimistic. I find I’m not optimistic or pessimistic, I’m realistic. And the reality is this shit sucks. FML.