This girl from my hometown just broke up with her boyfriend of 8 years, and she called me to tell me. We’ve been apart of a mutual friend group for years now. Her and I always had a ton of sexual tension, and we have a lot in common. There was a time when I’d actually fantasize about this exact situation, but I never thought it would ever happen. Her now ex was close to becoming an MD, which isn’t normally someone you break up with unless you really just don’t like the person anymore.

She told her best friend, who’s engaged to my cousin. Her best friend is already extremely excited about the potential of her and I being together now instead. They could never understand why I’ve been single for so long, and they knew her and I were a good fit, but she just had a boyfriend all this time.

So now I have a really hard decision to make. Do I hangout with this girl who I’ve had a crush on for years, and risk disclosing to her and ruining my reputation? One of her fatal flaws is she has a reallyyyy big mouth too. Like she’s so sweet and has the biggest heart, but she cannot keep a secret to save her life. So, if I disclose, she will either be extremely accepting of me given our history, and still want to be with me, or, she will reject me, and now the whole city is going to know my secret. It’s a huge risk. I’ve only tried dating women from outside my area so far. This way, if I disclose, no one will know. Need some advice.