Hi everyone. I'm (31F) and currently dating (32M)

We have been dating for 1 month now and so far things have been going well. We met through an online dating app and currently in a LDR.

A few days ago, he opened up to me and shared that he has HPV. He's had it for around 3 years now.

The conversation was brought up because I wanted us to both get tested before we officially became a couple and meet up for the first time in December. We live in different countries so this is a big deal.

(Full disclosure, I've already done my tests last month and my results are clear. I also got my 3rd dose of Gardasil 4 last month.)

To be honest, I only have a general idea of what HPV was so I've been doing all the research I can do these past few days. I've also started interviewing my OB and other medical professionals about the virus. But as I learn more about it I'm getting scared, anxious, and asking myself is it worth risking my health and possibly my future should we not end up together. 🥲

It's all so overwhelming. ☹️

I really want us to work. I want to give our relationship a chance. If there's any possible way to be with him without risking my health - I want to do it.

So I hope you can give me advice on how to have a conversation with him about his health and status because he hasn't said anything else other than having the virus. Idk what strain he has etc. Idk what to ask, how to ask, what's important to know etc.

Idk what questions to ask re: HPV to make a more informed decision about whether to say in the relationship or go. 🥲

I'm so confused right now on what's the next best step for me, him, and us. ☹️ Hope your insights can give clarity!