I matched with someone on a dating app last night, and we started chatting. One of the first questions he asked me was about monogamy, and I said that yes, I am looking for monogamy. He said he wasn't sure because my profile has sex-positivity listed in it.

After he talked about his ex for a solid 2 paragraphs (ugh), he mentions polyamory again and says it's not for him. Like, okay??? He also talked about how he loves to please his partner & doesn't want a hookup. I'm a little weirded out by him a) circling back to polyamory out of nowhere and b) talking about pleasing partners within 4 hours of us starting to talk. This isn't the first time I've gotten weird vibes from a man when sex entered the chat too soon.

Am I just pearl clutching for not being into men being like this so soon? Should I remove sex positivity from my profile to avoid this kind of stuff? I don't want to get trapped with another LL partner and it seems important to be up front about, but I don't want to be treated like sex is all I have to offer someone.