I haven't dated in a long time. I've heard the horror stories of modern dating and have a few old school horrors under my belt. I learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of others, and I'm pretty capable of setting the boundaries I need to set to keep scummy dudes out of my life.

What I could use advice with is how to be upfront and straightforward about how important sex is to me without making it seem like the only thing I care about? Is it too forward to mention it before meeting? Am I setting myself up for disappointment if I wait too long to bring it up?

This feels like such a touchy subject with dating but it's one of my top 5 criteria and idk how to express that to men up front without attracting men who just want to screw without a connection.