I (28F) been dating my partner (26NB) for 10months going on 11 months. When I first meant my partner I was completely upfront that I’m kind of a sex addict and crave it at least every other day. They said cool and wouldn’t have a problem with it. I never fallen in love before but I fell over heels with my partner and everything else in our relationship is good expect sex. After like the 3 date we tried to hook up and they couldn’t even stay hard enough for a minute and to hurt them a lot. I felt ugly at first but we learn it was Phimosis ( first time ever hearing of that word). I understood that and don’t push on the intercourse stuff and they are getting help for it and hopefully we could avoid surgery for them. In the meantime I thought maybe there would be nothing wrong with foreplay and oral at least. I try sexy clothes, talk dirty, sexual flirt and press my body against them, give HJs, or BJs to start the moment. My partner just doesn’t get horny or react to my advances. It makes me feel ugly and maybe I am bad at sexual appeal. I never had those thoughts cuz I use to be able to get any guy or girl before to sleep with me no problems.
Masterbating or having open relationship just doesn’t work for me. I had endless countless meaningless sex that I only crave passion and heat with someone I love. I use to not like kissing until I meant my partner cuz my heart never truly liked anyone before. I just want my partner to be the one to make an move on their own that they want some passionate cuddling and touch each other even without intercourse cuz that is an understandable medical thing. Or seem like they are actually get turned on by my advances…am I doing something wrong or does Phimosis cause guys libido to go down as well?

For the record they did tell me they never truly ever came or finish with anyone before me.