So my (43f) boyfriend (23m) is firmly in the responsive desire camp. He doesn’t think about sex much and isn’t terribly responsive to touch. He says that he needs a “build up throughout the day” in order to experience desire.

That said, he doesn’t like sexting (or anything over text), he doesn’t want to be bothered, or anything that will take time. He wants quick flirting that doesn’t interrupt his day (and isn’t over text) or he wants it to be a game. I am honestly at a loss. I freely admit I may just be too close to this to see obvious solutions, and if so I humbly apologize for being an idiot and appreciate any help you can offer me.

I was thinking there might be an app/game that lets us flirt/build sexual tension throughout the day that could be fun, but I haven’t found anything like that. Is anyone aware of anything? Or does anyone have any other suggestions for helping get our sex life out of the dumpster?