Hey folks. Husband and I have reinvigorated our sex life. We went from having “just OK” sex once a week (mostly to get each other off), to more connected sex 3-5 times a week. This change occurred because I pushed ENM onto him. He agreed but we have mostly just been swinging at this point. I don’t really swing because I have a cuckqueen fetish or because I’m bi-curious. I just crave other men. It’s the “other” / unknown aspect that gets me going.

Recently, my husband said he could have sex everyday with me. I don’t. I get tired of it by day 3 or 4… BUT that doesn’t mean I’m not horny. I still lust for other men all the time. Am I just mentally ill? Am I a HL woman? Does it make sense to be ENM or am I just massively damaging my marriage long term?

I’ve read the term fraysexual before and that seems to fit my profile. I feel like all of this is a huge character defect of mine and I should go on the pill to kill my libido again because searching for couples to swing with and also because my husband hasn’t had a lot of success with solo dating has been a strain on our relationship.