So, recently there was another question about HL dating after breaking up with an LL.

But, as I was giving my generic answer, a question popped into my head that I'd like to throw out to you guys:

I think that via media and social conditioning (with a bit of statistical truth underneath perhaps), the dynamic of a male having higher libido than a female, especially in a long term relationship is a well established trope.

I wonder then, if this creates a situation where men are often genuinely unaware of their preferred frequency and if that lack of self awareness creates a problem for HL women who are trying to date.

Suppose there's a man who's true preferred long term frequency is to have sex three times a week, but has only dated women who wanted it once a week or less. If he meets a woman who genuinely wants it twice a day, he may think at first (with the pressure of unfulfilled desire) that it sounds great, and represent himself as being enthusiastic about it, only to find out that he's not into it that much.

Is there a way to know, without experience, what one's true preferred frequency is?

I'll add a caveat. I have come to believe that masturbation is largely a different mental process than sex, because it requires no social/connective engagement, so masturbation frequency represents only a "best case" scenario for actual sex interest. I doubt it would be higher than that, but it will often be significantly lower.