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Male 27, TC 450k (self employed), SWE in Arlington VA.
My girlfriend (ivy league undergrad/MBA) is obsessed with getting a ārealā engagement ring (25k-50k). She knows the reason why she wants one is marketing, but cannot move past that and refuses to consider anything other than a ānaturalā diamond (nothing lab grown). Itās not a question of if I can afford it, but if buying it is the right thing to do. She says there is a certain connotation of me not spending money on the ring which she would have to live with forever.
Iām more than happy to buy her the exact ring she prefers (thatās lab grown) for 1/3rd the price and spend the extra on travel, dining, making memories, anything else, hell if being cheap is the issue Iād give her cold hard cash with the lab grown right too. Itās not a money issue but a values issue.
In all fairness, she does not have an interest in expensive things outside of some jewelry. Sheās happy with a modest car, modest apartment, etc. but cannot get past the idea of dropping a ton of money on a ring that actually has substantially less value the second itās purchased.
I come from a middle class upbringing, I seldom buy things new, I have a different perspective on money and finance than she does. I donāt run my business this way. Iām struggling to adopt her mindset.
Chew me out if Iām being wrong, whatās the best way to approach this?
My EXTREMELY high earning fiancĆ© had a CUSTOM ring made just for me with blue diamonds and a pink sapphireā¦and I LOVE IT and itās perfect. It was $5k. This is divorce city, my dude.
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