My brother [32M] was a beautiful soul who suffered a life of trauma. He has been sick the past 5 or so months. Save for a few people, he died thinking those closest to him hated him. His wife kicked him out of the house 2 months before he took his life and blocked him from accessing their money. He was living with me, and left this world with $4 to his name. Three days before he passed, his wife was texted him "you mother**cker" over and over because she noticed he took a bottle of wine from her wine cabinet. I know this because I went into his texts from her after he passed. She was terribly mean to him. My mom and I are paying for the funeral. I wrote the obituary.

On social media, she posts every day something like "Lord give me the strength..." or posting his obituary saying "My love *broken heart emoji*". Her friends, who are oblivious to how she was to him, started a GoFundMe for her that raised more than $7,000. Please also note she took out a $500,000 life insurance policy on him, and she inherited $7MM from a medical malpractice suit (that was also my brother's but she refused him access).

In the eulogy, I want to say that my brother lived a difficult life and died unhoused, deeply depressed, and passed with just $4 to his name, thinking that no one cared about him. And, that in his death I hope that we learn to lead life with implicit kindness and trust of good intention. Not calling anyone out by name, but speaking his truth. I want someone to finally stand up for him and let his truth be heard, because no one did when he was alive.

If I do this, his wife will go nuclear and ban me from ever seeing my nephews again (which is sad but it's hard to be around her anyway). And will probably try to turn everyone against me. But, more half the people in her life only liked her because of my brother and their kids. So, I'm on the fence. I just don't know if I can bite my tongue anymore...

What are your thoughts? I would say this part at the very end after the standard eulogy part. I know a eulogy is for those mourning a life but I feel a eulogy should be honest and depict a person's true life story, not cover it up behind thinly-veiled lies for the benefit of his wife (who has benefitted significantly from his death - she's not actually sad).