Hi. My 96yo auntie died. She had no kids so I was taking care of her at home but later she was put in elder care house cause me and kther aunt wasnt able to take care of her as she wasnt walking. She didnt like it in elderly care and was mad at and sad. I think she had decent conditions there to be honest. She asked to take her home etc and that she will cook and do everything alone. And she was repeating it each time we visited. I got tired and asked her when last time she was walking and if she can take care of herself why she dont walk on corridor etc. She said she will If I bring her skirt so I did etc but she wasnt able to sit very much. Each time I visited her she wasnt happy to be there I brang her food, water amd visited her each 2 days.

Last week at night she tried to wake up to toilet and broke her hip. She was put in hospital. She wasnt in pain so she could decide if she want surgery or no and after talking with me and my family we decided its good to do surgery so it wont hurt her while changing diapers etc. After surgery she got sepsis and died..

I feel so bad for listening to my emotions and telling her if she so insist to take her home why she dont see on herself that she isnt walking for 3 mo. I wasnt suspecting she will be able to leave the bed... what helps me is that once I visited a doctor told her the same that he will sign out her home if she goes to his office and he will sign out each lady there.

Ehh but she lived so long. I didnt know her much untill I was taking care of her last year as she didnt have kids. She was mean sometimes so was I. But we also had decent concersations I learned about my family history a bit.