Hi everyone.

My mom passed away a year ago. Long story short, she went in the hospital for back surgery, had a cardiac issue 2 days before her surgery and she was transfered to ICU. I saw her awake / intubated but the next day they had to induce a coma. Her lungs never improved during the 2 weeks she was there and she developped other serious issues. We had to let her go.

I have somewhat made peace with her passing away but I struggle so much with not having talked to her one last time. We were so close. We were living together and I had always taken care of her. Well we had taken care of each other.

I still feel like I failed her. I can't stop thinking of what she thought when she woke up in ICU. I don't know what they told her before they induce the coma and it's driving me mad. She must have been so scared. All of that has been running in a loop in my mind again.

A nurse told me the second week that there was not much hope because when they brought her in she was already in a coma like state. I told him that my mom recognized me and that she understood what I was saying. He seemed to not believe me and that makes me mad.

If you have had someone in a coma pass away, do you feel the same? Have you tried a way to get "over" all these feelings?