I'm so close to being cis-allo-hetero that I always worry that I'm not "Ace enough" to be in the broader Ace community, but not completely allo. I worry that I'm subconsciously just trying to be a "special snowflake," even though I don't make a big deal out of my sexuality, and don't agree with the "snoflake" rhetoric to begin with.

People have overwhelmingly said that I am welcome in the community no matter how close to one end of the spectrum I am, and can still chill with you guys even if I stop identifying as grey, but it still won't help me from thinking that I am too Ace for most of the world (really only because I can't begin to fathom hookup culture and sex talk makes me somewhat uncomfortable, but I hear that some allos feel that way too, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯), but yet still not Ace enough for the Ace community.

Anyone else here feel similarly? What do you do about it?