So I am married to an Allo. He is amazing and we make a great team/partnership in every part of our lives together except for the sex life.

He doesn't understand why it's hard for me to keep sex in the forefront of my mind and I don't understand why it's so important for him. We are sexually active and when we are together it's fantastic. Problem is that I have low libido, ADHD and not really being as kinky as he would like to be sooooo together with the powers combined, my husband doesn't get much lovin'.

We have tried threesomes, an awkward sex club encounter and a short lived poly life in the past. But I have jealousy issues and I don't mean to but I kinda ruin the experience for him.

We have started the conversation about opening the marriage again. When talking about it, it's exciting and I could totally see trying again. But as time goes on, I get in my head and doubt everything and get insecure and start worrying. I am the type of person who can't separate sex from emotions so it's hard for me to just let go and trust him and let him have his fun.

Thank you for reading my book..

Any advice from other Grey-A's who opened their relationships up?