Hi! So I'm in a long-term relationship with a man whose sex drive is an everyday thing- which I thought was normal. But I do not have the same drive- not at all. I just forced myself to do stuff because he wanted to (I have never been pressured by him jsyk) and I know how important it is to him since it's his love language.

He has told me to tell him no when I don't want to do something and so I have been, and it's a lot lately. There was a moment in the last few days where I was moving slowly to do a sexual thing or two and he started helping me but I panicked and asked him not to touch me- that freaked him out.

Now we are realizing that either my Generalized Anxiety Disorder & the meds I've been on for nearly a year are having a profound effect or I'm leaning toward being graysexual. Everything we've done sexually that is considered taboo was not my idea I basically just passively participated and while those events have proven to be a good time they're just not my cup of tea.

I will be talking about this with my therapist in two days but I'm really worried this will take a toll on our relationship. We've been together nearly 8 years and we are engaged- I don't want to lose him.