I thought I might be demisexual, but those in the know said I'm probably not. So now I'm trying to figure out if I'm graysexual. Here's my evidence:

1. I have never had sex, by choice. Not because I don't want to, but because I've never been in a relationship with anyone, and casual sex doesn't appeal to me.
2. I do have sexual fantasies. I do experience arousal. I have consumed pornography. But when I date, I prioritize getting to know people. I do think about sex with them sometimes, but I don't pursue sex unless I'm absolutely sure we both want it...which so far has never happened. But again, I prioritize establishing mutual interests and getting to know someone over sex. Kissing and touching is fun, though.
3. I'm some flavor of neurodivergent. I've heard being demisexual is more common among the neurodivergent.
4. I don't know why I thought I had a fourth thing to say. A woman I met online showed me a picture of her genitals once. I understand now why people do that, but like...why do you need to send me photographic evidence that you maintain good hygiene? That's weird to me. I'm not thinking about how clean your junk is when I'm trying to get to know you. I mean, I like lady-parts, but that's more of an aesthetic thing. I'm not an airplane coming in for an emergency landing.
5. BONUS FACT: I have a history of befriending women only to quickly harbor intense romantic feelings towards them, yet these feelings were based more in platonic than sexual attachment. I did feel some sexual attraction, but that wasn't the primary motivator. Most of these friendships ended terribly.
6. BONUS BONUS FACT: While I sometimes think about sex when pleasuring myself, I honestly don't need to. Thinking about holding hands, kissing, hugging, or just generally seeing someone smile at me and tell me they value me can be enough. And I don't actually like watching people have sex, just imagining myself doing it sometimes.

I don't really know what closure I'll get from being declared graysexual. Seems like it'll still amount to no one knowing what to do with me. But that's been a lifelong issue, and is not limited to romantic or sexual attraction. Anyway, someone tell me what I am so I can move on with my life.