I read mixed things about Spain on Reddit i.e. its great if you are 'white' which has raised some flags for me. I also have friends in Europe who tend to couple early and stay with their partner a long time hence I'm wondering if its over for me.

I'm born / raised in London and found the city quite racist/prejudice in terms of dating, and generally the culture sucked for anything else. Therefore my romantic or social life never really took off.

I now live in New York where I am working towards financial freedom. I face similar issues and have thrown in the towel in terms of trying to find a partner here. I also don't like the US culture or environment and don't see myself here long term as everyone seems depressed anyway. Making friends has been easier here though than London.

In about max 4 years I will be financially free enough to live in Spain (Madrid or Barcelona, based on these estimates linked) without a job. Maybe sooner too depending on how my promotions etc pan out. I will still work for my own sanity but its good to move when you are not burdened financially.

I am happy to learn Spanish and am looking for a country I would retire in (as I don't want to move again).

I would be about 38 (assuming 4 years from now) when I move so I'm not sure if I would be 'too old' to start a romantic gay life at this age there. Looks wise, I have a similar skin tone as Boomer Banks / Rogan Richards (probably something in between them actually). I am 'handsome/masculine' (I have visited Spain before and thats the number one comment they make on Grindr) and tall (6 foot).

As crazy as this sounds, I had my astrological chart read, and the guy said Spain would provide a good balance of all things e.g. career, relationships etc and the US would be good for money/career but bad for other things (which is proving to be true).

Would Madrid or Barcelona be a good place to move and retire in given 'who I am'? Would I realistically be able to find a partner?