There is this guy in our clan who's online pretty regularly as he has a job that allows him to be on weekends and weekdays (let's call him D). So D's always there to play games and he's not bad. Around a decent enough level to be somewhat dependable in CS:GO games with my partner when he wants to play some refined skill-based shooters.

Generally we play a F2P FPS game called Black Squad, which is the first FPS I've ever really played. It's low stress, doesn't have the overly competitive scene like established FPSs (CS:GO). When we're playing with him, D constantly backseat plays only me. It doesn't matter if I'm bottom fragging or top fragging, he's always trying to tell me what I should do or should've done. Not in a helpful "Hey, this might be a good method" and more of a "Why didn't you shoot the guy in the window!? YOU WERE LOOKING RIGHT AT HIM. I'm just wondering." And this is constant. "Why didn't you hear which bombsite it was planted at? You were right next to it!" And this was all just yesterday. Each time there was a reason behind it. "I didn't shoot the guy at the window because he was a sniper, I'm an AR. There are freaking 4 people left and I'm the only one alive. I was getting the guy flanking close to me first before I get into a fight with a sniper who knows where I'm at." Or "Because you were talking over the game sounds and I couldn't hear shit."

Previous times he kept making excuses for himself. Like, "Dude I shot you and got a no reg! LOOK, I RECORDED IT, you killing me is BS!" Black Squad is notoriously terrible because of their failure to fix no regs. I get them all the time too (headshot sound, blood squirting out but no kill) but I don't complain about it. He only made a huge stink when I killed him.

What's nuts is that my partner realized this too. He told me, "Yeah, I notice he only rails on you for whatever reason. D just needs to let my woman play!" He suspects it's a gender thing since I'm primarily the only woman who plays actively in our group. The second thought was because he knows I was new (which I'm not anymore, it's been almost a year) and was trying to be helpful.

It's infuriating and makes the game a drag to play. I'm not bad either. I've had my share of clutch plays. The game he complained about the sniper in the window yesterday, my partner and I was left versus 4 people. It was match point (Score was 7 - 7) in a clan match, so it was competitive. 45 seconds left on the clock so we had to pick a site. At 40, I told him "We're rotating all the way around to plant B." We had no time so we rushed B long. He went into window and killed a guy from it all while I smoked a common area, saw someone in it's corner trying to scope me and killed him. Faked a plant and headshot a guy coming out from the back. Planted and checked the back because their sniper was left and only had so many places to rotate. Saw him peeking, called out where he was for my partner and ran away to play for time. Won the match. (Was really excited about it because our communication was on point). So I know how to play as a team. I know the call outs and always go positive (unless it's a team where we all go negative, which means I usually do too).

I've told D several times that his "advice" isn't helpful but he persists. If I ever try to tell him off, he always has to have the last word which is usually a random burn or something completely unrelated to what he was being told off for. Yesterday was the last time so I muted him on Discord for future games.

Just had to get that out there. I had some damn good games yesterday and I wanted to rant out the crap so I still remember it was a good game day. I love the rest of the group that plays. Like, a lot.

Anyone else the victim of annoying backseat gaming? What's the reasoning you think is behind it?

EDIT: My first post in this subreddit and the community is so amazing and inviting! Thank you for all your words and support, I really appreciate it. Hopefully I'll branch out into other more popular games and get to play with y'all. ❤️

EDIT 2: Can't respond to everyone but I will read all the posts! It's nice to hear the ridiculous stories. xD