Recently I binged the entire series and loved it. The episode with the Farnsbys portrayed as swingers was interesting. As someone who actively engages in the lifestyle ( most people say lifestyle versus swinging), I immediately knew about the upside down pineapple lamps. So to weigh in and dispel some vanilla (those who do not engage in the lifestyle hobbies) I wanted to share from experience.

First, upside down pineapple is a thing and not a thing. We use it within our subculture as a symbol of inclusion. But the important bit is, it does not signify desire or expectations or as a secret flag to find other swingers. We use websites for that. I and people I know would never make assumptions about anyone with or possessing an upside down pineapple.

There is an article online that always pops up about swinger symbols. As someone in the community, all of them are bullshit. Supreme bad reporting.

Most people in the community do not actively advertise with lawn ornaments or obvious symbols. We have websites for that. And it really is counterintuitive.

Look at the Farnsbys. Prominent rich people in a small community would never ever want their secret exposed. I know doctors and teachers and lots of people in the lifestyle would be ruined professionally if this secret got out.

When newbies ask me about the symbols and codes I respond by asking if they believe in it enough to go hit on a random couple. So again, bullshit.

Second. The party. Would it happen? Maybe. Standing date night with other couples coulld be fun. For reference, key parties are not a thing. Lots of gray areas around consent and attraction there that most people in the lifestyle do not want to be a part of. And if there is any hesitation from a new couple, probably would be asked to leave as there would be an issue of gawking versus participating.

Third. The Farnsbys or any couple in most cases would not invite a couple over for a party without some heavy discussions about expectations and consent and attraction. We are adults. We use words, not secret handshakes.

Alright long post. I wanted to share from experience.