Your problem is you keep looking for things to make you feel good when the only thing that can make you feel good is yourself.

Start by accepting yourself for who you are. Not because of your job. Looks. Relationship. Wealth. Whatever. Understand that your worth is in the fact that you’re a living breathing thing and that’s unchangable. The minute you die you have no worth.

Secondly understand external factors are just external factors. Good and bad happens to everyone. It’s not just something that’s happening to you. The only difference between you and a person that’s confident is that they don’t attach their external circumstances to their identity and worth.

And Stop pitying yourself. People get so moppy about the bad stuff happening to them, and how unfair it is as if that’s not why we’re here. The whole point of life is to see what kind of person you are. It’s easy to be happy and positive when Good things are happening to you, but if you can’t be that during the negative then you’re not actually a happy positive person. You’re just happy and positive about your circumstances. I’ve learnt rational thinking helps as well. For example you get cheated on. Your mind goes to “I’m so worthless, and pathetic. Im not good enough, everyone just cheats on me” No? That’s not rational at all. Why are you deeming another persons actions towards you as your level of worth. You’re not a car? You’re not an item on the shelf with a price tag and if no one buys it. They decrease the price. If you have that mentality, that people’s actions towards you is definition of your worth. Then you’ll never be confident. People’s opinions are forever fluctuating, fuck even the weather is enough to change how a person may or may not feel about you. Maybe even the amount of sleep they got. It’s not an accurate form measurement

Effort brings confidence. You failed your course. Ok, how many hours did you spend studying? Practicing, reciting? Can you sit here and say you put 100% effort. If the answer is no then no wonder you’re not confident you don’t even know your potential. When you give it your all, magic happens. You conquer. Succeed and realize you’re capable. Aiding in confidence.