Imagine an amusement park, that has a whole bunch of rides. Vanilla sex is a carousel. Most people find it fun, practically anyone can do it, minimal risk, etc. Then there are the roller coasters. There are lots of people who don't find roller coasters fun. They're too scary, they get motion sickness, etc. But for the people who enjoy those roller coasters, they can be a lot more fun than the carousel. The people who don't want to go on the roller coaster don't have to. If they wanna try the roller coaster to see if they like it, they can. If they don't like it, they don't have to ride it again. And there are plenty of different roller coasters. Some have loops, some go backwards, and you may like some more than others. We're all at this amusement park to have fun, but we can each have fun in our own way.