For context, I'm a 19yo submissive guy. And a few months ago I asked about how I could hint towards my preferences on online dating sites to try and match with people who have the same prefs.

So I took the advice layed out in the comments to heart and over the last few months I've included some of the suggestions in my profile. I tried coy wordplay, mentioning that I liked assertive women, and straight up saying I don't like being dominant.

Unfortunately, these suggestions didn't really work. The times where I had these mentions in my profile my likes actually decreased to almost zero.

When those hints aren't in my bio I get two or three per week, and if I was lucky enough to have those conversations go anywhere, and if they came round to sex, they'd hint at how submissive they were and wanting me to choke them calling me daddy etc, etc. Which is an immediate turn off for me (but full respect to them, I totally get it lmfao)

So with that in mind, I'm worried I might be presenting myself in a way that comes across as dominant, in my photos and stuff. Despite the written parts of my profile being the opposite.

I have been a bit worried about this in the past. I'm quite skinny but I'm also very tall and have a pretty masculine face. I try and take photos that extenuate my softer features and dont really present in a traditionally dominant kinda way at all but everyone I interact with in a sexual or romantic context seems to expect that of me (with the exception of an AMAZING fwb who unfortunately lives too far away to make frequent visits practical). I even had a partner who broke up with me because I wouldn't do that kinda stuff.

So is there anything I can do in regards to how I present myself that kinda telegraphs what I want, like a code or something? I'm just kinda tired of dominance being something that's expected of me and I don't wanna lose any more bonds cause it's not something I'm comfortable providing.