My dad is and always has been an incredibly difficult person to get along with, he drove away my older brother from the family because he is never able to admit when he is wrong or show even an ounce of humility. He is a very jealous and childish person at his core and always has to have things done his way and makes talking to him like an adult all but impossible.

For instance all of my siblings and I have graduated from university, my brothers has a masters while my sister and I have bachelors. He had to be convinced by my mother to show a modicum of interest in any of those events, saying congratulations has never been something that comes naturally to him and whenever there is a subject that he himself is out of his depth on he always makes and ass of himself.

He will insist that his input on topics he knows nothing about are pertinent and that everyone should listen to what he has to say even while in the same breath saying out-loud that he doesn't know what he's talking about. Even within my area of study he feels content to talk over me and shout me down even when he is dead wrong, his ego simply doesn't allow him to listen to people or treat them as equals. He loves nothing more than talking down to me and treating me like I am incompetent, whenever he receives push back from my mom and in the past from my brother he would either turn it into a shouting contest or excuse his mentality with "its how i grew up".

Hell when I was hired at my current position I told him about my job and how much I make and rather than being excited for me and what my life has in store he only remarked that he couldn't believe I would be making the same amount as he did when he retired. That was it his only concern was comparing himself to me, he couldn't help but comment that he didn't believe it was real work since I work remotely with paper work rather than commuting to a job and doing something physically demanding

It makes me sad because I know people who have a healthy relationship with there fathers and I want so badly to have that with mine but he just isn't capable of it. For so long I sought his approval and validation and he is a person only concerned with himself, I want to know that I am good enough and that he is proud of me but those are words that will ever come out of his mouth of his own volition.