Hi! Had luck with Reddit before and spent over a year with my most recent ex from here so I figured third times the charm, right?

What am I looking for?

I’m looking for a long term in-person dominant and kinky partner. As someone poly, my ideal dynamic would be looking to complement my existing primary relationship with another primary romantic one. I am not currently actively looking for any more play, secondary, or comet partners but I know the vibes just sometimes work out that way.

Who I am

I’m a very petite, SE Asian, non binary person. Photos of me can be found on my profile. I’ve been told I can be easy to spot, even if I’m small because I tend to dress for the occasion. I tend to be a bit oblivious to that, though, and just enjoy committing to the bit. I currently have one primary nesting partner, and 4 comets.

My love languages tend to be along the lines of acts of service and spending quality time with those I love, so I enjoy dates and casual hang outs with whoever I’m with. I’m absolutely a double texter because I don’t like forgetting to tell people things. I love frequent communication throughout the day. I’m also a huge cuddler and will attach myself to you like a koala (without the chlamydia) if you let me.

I am extremely kinky and am 100% not looking for a dynamic without kink. I’m a sub and a bit of a pillow princess about it. I generally enjoy being used. I have plenty of experience. Happy to swap fetlife names with each other—it tends to make things easier haha

In my day to day life, I’m a bit of a nerd. I enjoy games of all sorts, although I’m not a competitive type of player. I’m also very independent and headstrong professionally. I’ll be heading to grad school in the fall.

Who you should be

I’m looking for a dom of any gender but one with experience. While I can be an easy sub to play with, I prefer to be able to actively negotiate scenes and dynamics with my partner.

Historically, I’ve mostly been attracted to people much older than me (although there are notable exceptions). It can be an aesthetic thing but it’s mostly a mental thing. I highly prefer people who know who they are, where they sit in life, and how to grapple with mental health issues that pop up. I have multiple exes over the age of 50, with my oldest current occasional partner being 62.

You should be poly and open to the possibility of a primary partnership but not necessarily a nesting one.

Drop me a DM if you would be interested in meeting!