I live in Los Angeles, CA. I have always been a "Side" even before that term existed. As many of you might know, being a Side had added complexities to our desire to meet someone equally like-minded. Empathy, camaraderie and male bonding combined with fun social values is also part of what I pursue. It's a warm and highly welcomed description of what many of us men REALLY desire to share and experience with other like-minded, goal oriented accessible men. There are more reasons some men identify themselves as Sides than just to seek a means to get off.  Remember, "You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time." Does this famous phrase sound familiar?