I've noticed many bottoms on Reddit exclaiming their ultimate fantasy of being with several guys, as they ask for tips for accomplishing this, successfully. As a bottom guy myself, my first group sex experience was very awkward. I felt unsure and clueless! Over time, I learned a few things from future experiences and now I absolutely love it!! Guys, feel free to add your own tips, but here are mine:

1.) Vet the guys carefully, before agreeing to move forward. I find that group sex which involves friends or at least people who are comfortable around one another make for the best experience. Everyone should be able to get along, keep egos at the door, etc.

2.) Set the expectations. Whether this is an intense gangbang or a passion filled night with men you love in a poly dynamic, everyone involved needs to know what to expect from one another.

3.) Will condoms be on or off? Again... you're still at the planning stage. If you're allowing condoms off, you should seriously consider going on PrEP. It's completely your choice, but remember... there is still not a cure for HIV/AIDs, unlike most STI's, which are easily treatable with antibiotics.

3.) Get a good nights sleep. As the bottom guy, you're going to need to be well rested for what's to come as to prevent "tapping out" early.

4.) Eat as clean as possible... especially the day or two before activities. Stay well hydrated, perhaps take fiber pills for the days leading up to this event. There is always a chance with anal sex that some poop could end up on someones dick, but with multiple sex partners, the chance will go up if you haven't thoroughly cleaned yourself out.

5.) Communication is key, more so beforehand. Even respectful guys aren't mind readers. Talk to all of them about your limits, your preferences, their preferences.

6.) Establish a safe word. Most would assume safe words are just for BDSM culture. Safe words are actually very important for anybody having group sex, because if you're in a room with several guys and one of them is doing something you don't enjoy or want, it's going to be very difficult to single him out in the moment. In-depth conversation isn't happening at this point! So, a simple safe word everyone can remember is key (I like "pause" or "red").

7.) Lube up... then lube some more! You're going to need plenty of lubrication for the task at hand. Before and during play time. If you're bare-backing, you'll probably only need lube for the first guy, then you should be good! ;-)

8.) After care. Again, a term you hear in BDSM sex. However, even with vanilla sex in a group setting where there is one bottom bearing the brunt of it all (physically and emotionally speaking), you may want to have one of the guys in this group be someone you're close to. Perhaps a FWB or a partner if you have one, etc. When everyone else leaves at the end, you'll likely want that "person" to stay. Cuddle time or an overnight together with a person you trust will prevent feelings of emptiness, shame, or other feelings associated with the "after effects" of such an event. (and yes, those feelings are normal in many cases the first time).

Okay, that was long! I hope some of these tips helps someone. I didn't really have a clue about many of these topics before my first time and wished I had better prepared myself. Good luck to all! xo