I'm 41 and looking to settle down. A few years ago I was living in California and dating a guy and although I could tell it wasn't going anywhere, I wasn't going to throw gas on the fire so to speak. We were watching 2018 midterm election results on CNN (not my choice, it was his house) and the Blue Wave was looking kind of purple-red. He was upset. I was holding in my joy. He asked if I voted for Gavin Newsom. I replied no. It was as if I committed murder. "WHY?" "Several reasons. Nepotism, his record, scandals, and he illegally procured euthanasia drugs for his mother." Then BF said, "WHERE DID YOU READ THAT?" I pulled out the two bookmarked articles on my phone which said the same thing despite being totally different sources. "I read it here and here. Did you want to read it? You asked where I read it." "I'M NOT READING THAT!" I nodded and replied, "Okay. Just so you know, I voted after doing research and I'm happy with my choice." He was still upset despite Newsom winning. Oops! I had a mind of my own. I think it lasted a week longer. He probably thought I'd change and I hoped he'd just stop calling after that night. Fast forward. Now in another blue state. I go on Grindr or Scruff and I'll see things like "no Trumpsters". WTF? I don't put in, "No dementia supporters". Is there a place for conservative gay men to meet each other? Even in blue states? Is there a code word? Do we join a local chapter of the Log Cabin Republicans? It's sad that gays on the left are so intolerant of us. Politics is just one aspect of a dynamic relationship. I would think cooking would take up much more. If anyone has any ideas please let me know.