My partner and I have had an off and on open relationship for many years now. He has expressed his interest in BDSM over the years with us playing some together and with others. However, together has not been that satisfying for either of us. Partly, he wants to be fully submissive but does not want to be that way in our relationship or with me even sexually.

So have other couples navigated the issue of one partner having a master outside of the relationship? How do you setup boundaries that keep the dom/sub relationship whole but respecting our relationship needs?

I am not worried about the dom taking over or losing my partner to the dom. I am trying to understand how to manage our non-sexual relationship aspects. My partner wants to full give you sexual control to his master which would include any sexual aspects between us.

Any advice or thoughts would be very helpful. We are starting to explore this sexual aspect and I want to give it an honest attempt as I know it would fulfill him sexually. Either leave comments or DM me.