Hi all,

This is a geniuine post and Im looking for your advice on this. I am a 25 year old oral Submissive (Side). So basically I have been looking for a regular reliable BDSM Dom so I can have sessions with to basically facefuck, force me to rim, cock balls ass worship, and spitting slapping, exploring golden showers etc.

But I have noticed when I have met up with one or two "Doms", they start with the usual head grabbing slow facefuck and maybe some pushing with rimming but not really pushing me hard or rough at all.

I literally stopped a session a few months ago and begged to be spat in my face and mouth more and also basically just told the Dom to slap me much more (barely touched my face).

I really feel like a lot of Doms just like to pretend they are rough online but in reality might be uncomfortable with excess slapping and spitting and pissing on slave etc. Not sure how to navigate this? Is there any universal signal to show that you want the session to be much more rougher and dominating?