This is it - you've found her! The woman you want to do the dirtiest, naughtiest, boundary-pushing sex activities with until neither of you can move. And you have no idea how to ask her to give into one of your biggest fantasies to see her fuck an indescribable number of men in one setting until she can't walk. You are in luck - you are not alone. So let's acknowledge now that it is not easy (on either side) and takes big (blue) balls to ask 😉 . Here are some tips to guide you through your ask.

Please note this is not a magic 8 ball solution where once you get that one piece of advice everything fall in line. There is still work you need to do. And if you're not interested in doing the work, stop reading now cause it will not get easier.

Setting the stage

How you ask will be just as, if not more, important than what you are asking. Start by creating positive experiences leading up to your ask. Best to plan for the long game with creating at minimum 2 weeks of nothing positive moments together. I'm not going to lie but a month of great experiences, both sex & relationship wise, will increase your chances that she will be more open-minded about exploring this with you.

How do you create a month of great experiences? Well theoretically your entire relationship is already great. If it is not, go back to the beginning by solidifying your communication as a couple/sex partners.

Understanding your audience

"Your virginity is sacred" "You must wait until marriage to have sex" "Don't have sex too early or too often or with too many men - no one will want you" For years women have been told that sex is not for their pleasure and something that should only be "given" to one special person. Which means when you ask it will go against everything that society has been telling her [women] for years. If this is truly something you want then you need to fight that societal pressure with her. Start by slowing introducing her to the kink community if you know that not something she's into. For example, start with a sensual game night with sex toys and/or literal games (truth or dare is wonderful...at least when I've played).

Dipping your toes into the community together with small things with a goal to work up to bigger items will build her trust that you are someone she can count on to and protect her best interest. This is not a get out a jail free card - you will still need to have a full conversation at some point about the kind of sex life you want with her but this "lubes" her up so it's easier for you to slide in.

Trust is not just a five letter word

Let's be even more honest than before - the woman you asking is a woman. If she really wanted to, it wouldn't be difficult for her to get any cock she wanted. If you don't believe me, take a moment to think about how many women post personal ads in this sub (honestly any NSFW sub) vs how many men - Supply [vagina] vs Demand [cocks]. So why should she say yes to you? Are you someone she can count on? Do you treat her with respect (outside any sexual humiliation if y'all are into that)? When was the last time you lied to her? Does she know the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

These will be the questions she asks herself when considering your ask for a gangbang. So what chance could you possibly have to that she agrees? If she does say yes then it's because you're someone she trusts. If it wasn't clear, she makes a choice to be with you. So show up! Be a good partner - a reliable person that makes her feel safe and show you have her best interest at heart. Women who are sexually confident and comfortable have no problem trying new things but they want to know that their partner is equally committed. It's a huge risk for her (i.e. her literal life on the line) to be open, exposed, venerable to a large group of men in which she little to no protection if things go sour quick. So you need to assure her she can trust to you to be that protection no matter what. That you are 100% in to tell a guy to fuck off if he breaks the rules she sets with no hesitation. If you are not willing to make that commitment, then don't ask. Because if you take that on and you fail, you can bet her beautiful ass will be searching for another cock that can follow directions.

Labels exist for a reason

Slut - Whore - Ho --- The list can go on and on. These words are historically (and currently) hold negative connotations and women often have encountered as some man is screaming obscenities at them when all they did was politely decline a request. In your own life, how many times have you done this? Or seen it done? The point is as much as men love the idea of women being used in a variety of sexual activities they are also quick to turn around and use that as a weapon to humiliate/demean us. So why would a woman say yes to a gangbang to men (you) she trust to then have those same men (you) tell her she's worthless because she did it? Things like this creates more negative experiences that will encourage her to live a vanilla sex life because it simply won't be worth the effort for her to be humiliated or devalued or disrespected for having an active sex life after YOU asked her and she said yes.

So when you do ask, leave these words off your script. Using them will just make you like every other asshole in her life who wants to take advantage of her and that's not how you want her to see you. You want her to view you as a partner that respects her in this adventure you're going to take together.

Popping the question

Alright, you've gotten this far in learning the landscape and landmines that are in your way to asking your female partner to fuck multiple men. Great job! Now you actually have to go forward with asking. She's not a mind reader so any hints you've been dropping you can bet she's been analyzing but it's your job to put it together. If you've read the women's edition you may see some similarities.

By now you're well into a few weeks of just good moments between the two of you. So you pick a day to start the conversation and make sure that day shines! Maybe it breakfast in bed followed by giving her a full body massage that turns very erotic and has the two of you hot and sweaty in a state of euphoric happiness. As you're coming down from your sex high you mention that you're interested in expanding your sexual relationship together. Assure her that you are asking for this because you love everything about the sex you are currently having and want to keep exploring this passion with her.

Slight pause - lets acknowledge that when this is said to anyone they may immediately think the opposite - that you're bored and this is how you get to try new things. If you are actually bored, practice beforehand so it sounds genuine. If this is new for you too, then tell her that you've never done this before and feel safe with her to explore new activities. If you are familiar with the kink community, then don't use the previous line (we want to avoid lying). Tell her that while you have explored in this community before, you are interested in doing this with her because you trust her and think expanding your sexual relationship will strengthen your bond.

When you are finished telling her about your exploration interests, follow-up that you understand she needs time to think. And ask if she is ok for planning your full discussion in a week over dinner. Remind her that you hope that conversation will be a mutual sharing of any activities she would like to try too and you wish for the two of you to have open minds so nothing is off the table. Assure her that you will love and respect her no matter what. Feel free to set the same ground rules from the women's edition when you do have the full conversation:

• No idea is right or wrong
• Take things at face value - sharing ideas is not a criticism of the sex you are having, its an achievement that you want to explore new thing together
• This is a judgement free zone
• At the end you both must say "Thank you for being open and honest about your sexual desires. I appreciate that you have chosen to share these with me."

Remind yourself during the conversation that this is not the place to say no even if they are on your dealbreaker list (like you sucking another man's balls). You invited her into this conversation so its only fair you hear her fantasies 100% with no complaining. When you are finished sharing, together make a plan for another discussion on how you two agree on what to experience to try together. *

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\Results may vary as this is not foolproof. Do what's right for your relationship. And seek additional resources from books and trained professionals if needed. Getting help is never a bad thing.*