Ever watched 'The New Girlfriend', a French film? It's one I love to suggest. It offers a glimpse of my ideal match: a gentleman comfortable with sometimes expressing himself through feminine attire. I'm searching for that rare gem who can embrace vulnerability while exploring unconventional norms. The closest I have seen anyone accurately describe it is finding someone who wants to be “girlfriends” just as much as they also want to have a BF/GF relationship.

I am seeking something more lasting and fulfilling with a reciprocal soul who shares my passions. As a femme who enjoys feminizing, I am seeking a genuine connection with someone who enjoys dressing femme. I dream of someone being just as excited over makeup, stockings, and pretty things as I am. Kindness, trust...being genuine are things I can offer. I want to be that best friend you can confide in, have silly jokes with, witty banter, learn endlessly from one another, someone to make memories with, and be that forever safe space. I am extremely open minded.

Androgynous, passable, and non-passable are all equally beautiful to me in their own right. CD’ing is something I know deep down I have always and will always want in a partner. This is non-negotiable. I would rather spend the rest of my days alone than not find someone who can share this passion with me.

I tend to be attracted to both sides of the same person, the masculine side and the femme as well. If it makes any sense? I want to know all sides of you. The side of that wears jeans and chucks most days, along with the side of you that can rock a dress with some fishnets.

I enjoy nerdy things, boring dry period pieces, Jane Austen, scary movies, sour things, and jalapeños. Going for walks with the pets, some sports, thrifting, repurposing things, volunteering. Meaningful, deep conversations and learning from one another are yum to me. Die Hard is definitely a Christmas movie, fight me. Probably use far too much makeup and even more hairspray. I am employed and working on improving myself in various areas. Definitely still on a journey of finding myself but wouldn’t mind some company along the way.

Because I am looking for an actual adult relationship that includes shared interests, I am open to discussing more personal info once compatibility has been established. I am looking for my person who shares this passion for being femme without feeling judged or shamed. With that said I am not the sum of all my peculiar interests. I prefer to live on the left side of the slash for those who are so inclined. Communication and mutual respect are important to me. My hope is to find someone who is genuinely attracted to me and desires all of me, not just the that part of me. While the hope is to find someone locally I am cognizant that it might not happen living in such a conservative state. With that said I am open to an LDR or possible relocation down the line someday. Please be at least 35?

I attempted to make a sincere effort describing a bit about myself so low effort replies will be ignored. I am definitely not interested in anyone who is married, in a relationship, unavailable, simply seeking a hookup or someone to play with online. I do not want to be someone’s backup plan, emotional affair, or GFE. I am not interested in anyone with a dead bedroom situation, disapproving wife or GF, etc. I am not here to help you explore or get off. At the end of the day I simply want to love and be loved. I don’t want a love I will have to beg and plead for, much less with someone who will never want me in the way I want them.

Love without fear or shame has always been the goal. I have never had an entirely truthful, honest, meaningful relationship in which I could be myself, love and be loved the way I wanted and the way I know it should and can be.

Thank you for reading my post. If you believe you are a potential actual match, lets start a conversation.

“One of my greatest fears is I will die without finding a single soul who knows what to do with all this fire behind my eyes.”

• Cindy Cherie