When I'm out and about in the world, walking down the street, seeing random people I've never seen before and maybe never will see again, it strikes me how everyone looks good. We live in a society where we are constantly getting yelled at from all sides about the ways we should look, be it thigh gaps or badonkadonks or pear shapes or hourglasses or clear complexions or washboard, six pack abs or penises that can ring the neighbor's doorbell. And certainly within the confines of our community there are many fetishes or special interests that give nods of approval to some combinations, features or builds.

But I want to take the time to say something, which is that I appreciate you for who you are, and I don't have trouble finding beauty in the way most people look, even if they're "ordinary" by their own description. I don't think I'm alone in this.

There are bigger issues to talk about with regard to the treatment of black people and anyone targeted by racism in the US especially but also anywhere, but it's what's made me want to say this, because from what I've understood it's especially common for young black girls to see themselves as not being appreciated, and for culturally common and expressive features to be viewed in a bad light.

So, as a white guy (who, trust me, is as white as white can be), I have never found a black girl or woman to be ugly, and especially not on account of "looking black". I have seen so many ways you look cute, beautiful, smart, cool, expressive, adorable, sweet, strong, sharp, endearing, powerful, passionate, sexy and sexual. This also goes for all other groups I can imagine, whether it be latinos, asians, redheads, white people or redhead latino asians. We're all just people, and we fit into many different groups and come from different places, and are walking beakers of different kinds of genetics and it doesn't matter. You will look the same as some people in some way, different from other people in another way, and it's just your own personal set of details that someone will be delighted to look at you, notice and find charming.

Why does it matter what I think? It doesn't - and I think history has dramatically overemphasized the white straight guy's opinion in general (sorry about that). But since there's so much evil being propagated about "how one should be", and since you can't open a news source without seeing some sort of thundering emergent opinion that some privileged people have held and propagated over centuries, I thought it might be constructive to also chime in and say that some of us who are ostensibly in this group really don't agree. (I think some of the inaction has come from us disagreeing with it so much that we've been unable to see it because we don't want to identify by association with those people and have been "hoping it goes away" - a vain and shameful move that has had a lot of consequences and that I'm hoping we're going to change. Again, sorry about that.)

I have written some scripts that play into the fantasies and fetishes, and they are what they are. Most of my scripts are as broad and allowing and nonprescriptive as they can be. Most are about what feelings and passions are evoked by another person, about closeness and the acceptance we all crave, the mystical and magical qualities that can emerge from two people just being close to one another and connecting, and the pain from them being kept apart. Those people don't care about dimples or frizzy hair or cellulites or freckles or some proportion somewhere that makes it hard for them to find clothes - except when they, as they are attracted to that person, want to celebrate every part of them that makes them them, and quite possibly find something extra attractive. Like I said - details that people notice. Details for an eager hand to fondle in the midst of foreplay, the heat of passionate sex or warm, calm but still electric cuddling — or for a stranger to observe, respectfully and from a distance, out and about in the world somewhere, noticing and thinking "aw, there really is no limit to how beautiful people can be".