So here we are. Giving it the Hail Mary. Posting in a dark recess of the internet in a last ditch attempt to avoid a begrudging return to the dating app scene! Haha.

The dream
Finding amazing chemistry and deep connection is the goal here. The kind of chemistry that sparks instantaneous mutual interest, attraction and understanding, followed by hours of effortless conversation. We’re so enamoured with each other on the first date that we nearly get hit by a bus – that kinda chemistry. I want to find the one. Someone I can relish all the good stuff with. Weekends away, trips to the cinema, gigs, going for meals, getting out in nature. Holding hands and just marvelling at one another like weirdos. All that cute couple shit. I look forward to all that glorious stuff. I’m full of positivity and excitement about finding someone to share life with. The thought of getting there makes me smile with hope like a complete moron.

Me
Personality:
A compassionate type; Acting in a principled way, being kind to those less fortunate, standing up for those less capable, treating people well, and being thankful for your good fortune is a fundamental part of life for me. I love deep chats with likeminded people and hearing about people’s passions and interest. I’m fairly socially confident – but in bearable way, honest. Friends and family describe me as friendly and insatiably passionate, with a handful hobbies and interests. I love pouring myself into subjects and take great pride in everything I do. I’ve a good old fashioned weird sense of humour and don’t take myself too seriously. Not much of a social media user or a pouty selfie taking type. I’m a huge animal lover (pet pics welcome), and love walks in nature and being present.

Appearance:
Fairly well dressed, clean and tidy, fair haired, tall, and in decent shape; not a musclebound god by any means, but enjoy lifting weights a few times a week. I hate to do it but I’m gonna hit myself with a number to make things easier. I suspect I’m an 8.5... Yep, just balked while typing that. I’m not the dude who goes around branding people with numbers in that way. Ever. But as much as I prioritise connection, I understand ballpark attraction counts to a degree and figure it helps when deciding whether to respond or not.

However the above descriptions sound, in short, I see myself as the direct opposite of a Love Island contestant. No judgements on them though, haha.

You
Ideally 24-30

Personality:
Kind, compassionate, and fun loving. I like people who come across as sweet or polite and who are positive, warm, energetic and talkative. You are a lovely effervescent creature with your own quirks. For example, If you snort when you laugh… I’ll probably love it. You don’t take yourself too seriously and don’t mind being a bit goofy and having a laugh.

It’d be awesome to meet someone who’s also into lifting or a similar active pursuit so we can share that enthusiasm and spur each other on. Having gratitude for your health and appreciating the positive benefits of activity on mental and physical health is something I’d love to share with my partner. Having said that, all in moderation. I love a good donut and a brew.

Appearance:
All styles and vibes welcome. I think there’s something to appreciate in every individual. It all comes down to the unique appeal of a person. I confess I find curves to be particularly gorgeous. Broadly I would say average to curvy or ‘womanly’ body type with a healthy or athletic appearance. Ultimately these are only rough guides, so if you feel strongly that we’ll connect, reach out!

The sexy stuff
I’m not a casual sex type of guy. For whatever reason I’ve never been interested in or comfortable with casual sex. I’ve always inherently wanted to know and connect with someone first. So no chance of me getting all weird and asking you to dump yogurt on your feet or whatever 2 messages in. As a result of this approach to relationships, I’m well aware I’ve had far fewer partners than most people. It’s hard to articulate without sounding like an arsehole, but I think people assume I’ve had more partners than I have based on the way I look or perhaps due to my sociable vibe. So having not dated in a while due to tending to other areas of life, I have some mild apprehension and low confidence when it comes to returning to sexual relationships. Arguably this is something I could not mention, cross my fingers, and hope I pull it out the bag when the time comes. But as part of trying to act in a principled way and be decent, when it comes to relationships and asking another person to invest time in you, it only feels right to be forthright about this stuff in order to avoid wasting someones time.

Which is what brings me to post here… Essentially I would love to find a partner who connects with my post and is seeking a forever relationship with primarily a ‘normal’ dynamic, but who has some curiosity about a gentle, loving, affectionate RR dynamic. I post here because I would feel like an absolute monster if I met someone I connected with but for whatever reason it wasn’t quite clicking in the bedroom and for this to cause upset. So I think it would be great knowing my partner would enjoy taking control a bit more if I wasn’t feeling totally confident after some time. Meeting someone who could be open exploring this dynamic at some point as a fallback would be fantastic.

I don’t yet know what this dynamic would entail should it come to fruition. But if for example a FLR or a heavily degrading, dominant role was your sole and non-negotiable interest, then I’m not the man for you. Likewise if you’re all horned up and wanting to get into sexual talks straight away, I’m not the man. In fact, aside from clearing up any queries off the bat, I would prefer to park any sexual talk for a while so we can get to each other. This is essentially so we can negate either party thinking with their crotch, haha. I want this alternate dynamic to be a secondary possibility further down the line, and for us to both prioritise seeking connection above all else and without sexual motives.

I’m not in a rush to send or receive pictures right away, but naturally we’ll need to do that after a little sniffing-out period. Although you’re welcome to if you feel inclined. And needless to say based on the length of this post, I’m open to travelling within reason. I’m in the Liverpool/Manchester area for reference.

Despite how strange and taboo it feels pouring your heart out to a load of horny dudes on the internet… I feel positive about this! If you’re reading and feel this post was written for you, I’d love to hear from you.

And the most important question of all. Whats ya favourite dunking biscuit?

Thanks for reading