I love kink, exploring with a partner and discovering those mutual interests. The excitement of trying something new, or feeling a new feeling. The anticipation, the build up, and in some cases the nerves that go along with it.

While I do love kink and I want us to share those interests, the thing I’m after goes a lot deeper than that. I want to submit. I want to have a partner who can control me with a simple glance or touch. I want to feel that deep connection that you feel when you truly become one in a relationship.

To me, Domination is less about someone taking control but more about the act of giving control. As a switch, I’ve always seen submission as a gift that is given through trust, honestly, and a desire that builds through mutual respect and ultimately love. That’s what I want, true love.

Searching for a Domme is a bit of a challenge. So many are looking for something easy or someone who will immediately give up their submission. That isn’t me. I’m also not going looking for someone who wants to keep me as part of a group of subs. I like attention and appreciate a one on one connection. While I am potentially open to a non-traditional relationship dynamics, if this is to develop into what I hope to find, that will ultimately need to be a monogamous relationship.

I became interested in D/s stuff back when I was about 17 or 18. Over these years, that's desire has been unfulfilled as I have had some playmates but no one that I would truly want to call my Domme.

That isn't to say that what I'm looking for is someone who takes the entire D/s aspect to the extreme level of seriousness at all times. I like someone who is sweet, caring, and funny. Someone who I can talk to about anything and will laugh at my weird sense of humor. I want to feel comfortable sitting on the couch and watching a movie with you, snuggling and just having that feeling of everything being "right" in the world. I also want to know that when my Domme decides to take over, I am hers. You see, I want a 24/7 Domme, but I don't want her to be in Domme-mod 24/7 if that makes sense?

I guess you could say I want to find someone to fall for. All of the awkwardness of dating, the butterflies in my stomach, the anticipation of seeing her again... But she happens to also be a part of this lifestyle I so enjoy.

It makes me smile just thinking about it.

So about me as a sub. I am much more interested in the mental than the physical. Touch, blindfolds, some wax play, some levels of humiliation, etc. I enjoy light bondage, nothing too scary. I also would like to explore pegging. For the most part though, I would want to discuss interests and limits with my Domme to create a list together. That would be ideal. I’m very open to most things outside of a few hard limits.

As for me as a person, I am a bit of a homebody lately but that is mostly because I don't have that person who pulls me out of my shell. I love going on life's little adventures. I'd love to have someone to just pick up and take a day trip with. I like that kind of thing. I love the Panthers and am obsessed with them during the season. I love movies and try to see as many as possible. I like to think I have a good sense of humor. Then again, there's no humor in this ad really (or is it just so dry no one even see's it.. Nah, probably not). I’m an avid reader and am always super into one book or another.

I think I've typed too much and I know what I'm looking for is a longshot.. But you always miss the shots you don't take. All I ask is that you are emotionally and physically (i.e. you have the available time to devote to build something) available.