I am single, no kids, West African in Africa, black, 5’5”, moderately curvy, naturally dominant, territorial and extremely protective of what’s mine. I am a mix of strict, gentle, passionate, bitchy and loving. I am sometimes also known to take no prisoners especially with those that may think they want to waste my time.

I am Looking for a male submissive longterm monogamous loving and romantic life partner. Crucial key components in any relationship is vital so things like a deep connection, sparkling chemistry, open and honest communication, compatibility, building trust and friendship are not negotiable. It will be a slow burn process since the end goal is a longterm thing so getting to know each other to see if we’re compatible at all must happen. If we are, then we keep going on. If we are not, then it’s adieu.

I generally have interests in a wide range of subjects and also an eclectic taste. I enjoy movies and books and other such stimulating things. I don’t mind playing games once in a while and the adventure genre is a favorite. I also tend to hangout with friends quite often (being single and all) and would love to travel to a lot of places in the world. I enjoy cooking too sometimes and since I’m black and African, definitely love it spicy and hot. I’m a smoker and a social drinker so those that find that off putting take note.

I have a wide range of kinks but my biggest is the D/s, obedience and training aspect. I firmly believe that most of everything begins in the mind and being a dominant or submissive is not an exception. We must both derive joy and happiness from the immense mental stimulation derived from being dominant or submissive. I am also dominant in and out of the bedroom, which means my relationship must be a female led one to a large degree. As to kinks since compatibility is all encompassing, we must also be compatible to a large extent there as well. We start off online and then move it to irl. We can work towards that. I take what is important to me very seriously and my submissive partner will definitely qualify as extremely very important and that means I will put in all my all (which is a lot) and do everything I consider to be the best for him. And I totally expect the same. I will also work with him to be the best version of himself he can be and to achieve any and all potentials. Being together, learning together, growing together, loving together. That is the goal.

You must be over 30, single, in good shape, well spoken, a little cerebral, monogamous and loyal, know what you want generally in life or have strong ideas, be mentally stable, be dependable, have a sense of humor, a little adventurous, a little outside the box, be open minded, not too left or right leaning, have accepted who you are as a submissive, have done some research online on your own if you’re new, ready to open up and learn my ways if you’re not, be willing and ready to work hard, listen, learn and grow, be able to understand the concept that being a submissive is not being a door mat and it comes from a place of strength, be ready to please and satisfy, be ready for your focus to be more about pleasing and satisfying me, be ready to be patient and follow my lead, be eventually proud to be owned. You must also be looking for a longterm loving and romantic partner who is dominant.

What I’m not looking for: Switches (submissives only), littles, pain sluts, cuckolding, full time sissies, ABDL, toilet slaves and brats. Nothing against them, just not for me.

Time wasters and those looking for kink dispensers, save yourself the energy and time.

If this ad resonates with you, send me a message. Do not send me a chat. Introduce yourself, tell me a few of your hobbies and what you think you have to offer. Also include something you generally find funny or/and interesting.

If there’s an initial zing, then a voice call will be done for the first verification. If the zing gets bigger, then a video call for full verification.

We Dommes rarely post ads because of the tremendous barrages that follow but I’ve decided to step out to look for that shinning needle in a haystack and I expect a lot of haystacks to message. I really hope that my shinning needle will see this and believe that I will go through all messages and give initial replies to the ones that show promise. So my advice to you is take your time with your message, be yourself and let yourself shine.

Because of the time difference I will post two of this ads. One now at this time and another in the next seven days (according to posting rules) at another time.

Cheers.