(If this post is up, I'm still looking!)

Long post ahoy!

Hey there. I really want to develop a female led/gentle femdom relationship with a special guy.

I'm not looking to be "the boss" or to put myself "above" you in any way. I want us to be equal and/or have you take the lead in most traditional things... but give up a bit of control in other areas. :)

What do I mean by that? Keep reading!

● ABOUT ME ●

You can call me Dreamer for now. (I'll tell you my real name once we get to know each other) Please do NOT call me Miss, Ma'am, Master or Dominatrix. I won't respond to you if you do.

I'm 25 years old and an INFJ-T. I live in Nashville, Tennessee, USA and I'm on Central Standard Time. I'm a Black woman and I stand 5 feet, 7 inches tall. My eyes are brown and I wear glasses. I don't have any tattoos or piercings at the moment.

One thing I want to mention is that I'm currently plus size, AKA a bigger girl. I'm undergoing a procedure in the near future to lose weight. I'm ready to be confident in my body again. I'd love to have you by my side throughout my journey!

As far as personality goes, I'd describe myself as empathetic and sweet. I like to help others as much as I can. In person, I'm rather shy. People tend to mistake that for weakness, but my strength lies in introspection and quiet observation. I notice every nuance of a person's actions, words, body language and vibe... my intuition hasn't steered me wrong yet!

In case it's important, I'm a switch. I like both sides equally; just keep in mind, if you're a switch too, I only like gentle doms. Hard doms are a HUGE no for me.

● INTERESTS ●

I won't go into great detail on every single interest that I have but I'll talk about my two biggest ones you'll likely hear me mention the most.

✨️Writing✨️

I've been writing since I was six years old but I started taking it seriously when I was 13. All in all, it's been 19 years. As of right now, I primarily write Fanfiction but in the past, I've written poetry, short stories and I even tried to learn how to write screenplays at one point.

I wrote my first full-length book in 2018-2019. I started the sequel in early 2020, but I'm still working on it three years later. I lost a LOT of inspiration during the pandemic but I'm finally writing it again. Let's hope I'll finish it sometime soon.

✨️Music✨️

Music has gotten me through a lot over the years. Yeah, yeah, I know everyone says that. But it truly has. It's shaped my life and introduced me to a lot of things and people that I probably never would've done or met otherwise.

There's no point in saying that I like xyz genres because I've listened to pretty much everything. The only ones that I truly hate are country and gangster rap. If you want specifics, though... I've been a HUGE twenty one pilots fan for 9 years (I have more merch, stickers and other random shit of theirs than I care to admit to lol) I also love other artists like Amber Run, Purity Ring, Phantogram, Daughter, Lorde, OneRepublic, Vanessa Carlton, Sleeping At Last... plus tons of other artists that I enjoy at least one or two songs by. I have ten million albums that I need to listen to but oh well lol.

I've always had this dumb idea of me and a guy confessing to each other through playlists that we made for each other filled with songs that make us think about each other...

God, I'm single.

Some of my other interests include photography, TV, movies, video games, The Sims 2, The Sims 4, traveling, people watching, researching random topics and watching YouTube. Feel free to ask me about anything you want more detail on.

● ET CETERA ●

I really love animals, especially cats. I have three and they're little demons but I love them. I always thought it might be cool to have a dog one day? They're so sweet. I also like ferrets, bunnies and snakes!

My main love languages are words of affirmation, quality time and gift giving/receiving. But, to be honest, there are elements of each language that I enjoy or relate to in one way or another.

I don't smoke and I drink every so often. Otherwise, I'm vaccinated, clean and disease free.

● ABOUT YOU ●

I'm looking for a guy between the ages of 21-30. I'm willing to be flexible with the higher number, but I won't talk to anyone younger than 21, sorry.

Please be single, emotionally available and drama-free. I won't interact with anyone already in a relationship or married (even if you're separated or in a dead bedroom, you're STILL married) and I'm especially not interested in poly/ENM.

I'd highly prefer you to be taller than me. Hair is also super important as well; I prefer medium-length to long hair, something I can run my fingers through.

Blue and/or doe eyes are my BIGGEST weaknesses. I'm welcoming of all eye colors, though, so long as they are generally warm and kind.

I tend to like softer facial features and even softer personalities. Are you masc and take the lead in public but love to be the complete opposite in private? Great! Are you less masc and more feminine by nature? Lovely! Are you more androgynous or otherwise fall somewhere between previously stated categories? I can dig it!

Key traits I'd like for you to have include, but are not limited to: Being sweet, gentle, empathetic, kind, considerate, an active listener (more on that in a bit), exceptional at communicating and willing to please and go the extra mile for your partner.

Please live in the general USA/Canada/North America region. I do like the British accent a lot, so if you're from the UK and are willing to work around the timezone difference, feel free to hit me up.

With that being said, it's important for you to have time for me. I'm not asking you to pay attention to me 24/7 but if you're always too busy to talk, this won't work out. At some point, I'd like for us to voice chat/call each other regularly as well.

Being clingy is fine... within reason, of course. Randomly messaging me "Hey babe, I miss you so much 🥹" is pretty damn sweet. Spamming me with 50 messages, however, is not...

● WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR ●

I want things to develop as they will, but with effort involved from both people.

It's important to me that you're an active listener; what I mean by that is you make an effort to listen to what I have to say and acknowledge/respond to it accordingly. If I tell you my thoughts on a matter or ask you a question or give you a compliment or tell you something about myself, please respond to it. Nothing drives me up the wall faster than feeling like my thoughts or opinions are being disregarded.

Likewise, if you start off super chatty but then do a complete 180° and barely engage in the conversation... yeah it's done. If I get the feeling that what I say isn't important to you, I immediately lose interest. I can tell pretty quickly if someone is being genuine or not. Like I said before, I notice everything lol.

I mentioned earlier how one of my love languages is words of affirmation. One of the ways I enjoy receiving that is through sincere and frequent compliments. I'm not looking for you to worship the ground I walk on, but being told "You're so beautiful" or "When you do xyz, that makes me really happy" is extremely fulfilling and makes me feel appreciated. It's incredibly frustrating to send a picture of myself and get a lukewarm response in return. ("Cute" "You look nice" "Pretty") Refer to the last two sentences in the previous paragraph.

All of that may or may not sound bitchy, but 98% of the things I won't tolerate stem from personal experience... so I want to weed out those people (the ones that are self aware enough about it anyway).

Affection is super important to me. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling... all the cute shit couples do. I want you to touch me all over, not in a pervy way, but in a "I want to get to know everything about your body" way. I want to stroke your hair and hold you close to me... little things like that make me happy.

For a long time, I was okay with the idea of having a long distance relationship and I still am okay with initially getting to know someone online for a little while... But, ultimately, I want to meet as soon as possible with the goal of you moving here/near here in the future. I want us to be able to spend time together, go on fun dates, build intimacy, physically support each other, all that stuff... sure, you can "kinda" do some of that online, but it's just not the same. I know with me, I just wind up feeling even lonelier than ever before.

● OUR DYNAMIC ●

I'd love for you to take the lead on most things men prefer to make decisions on (with my input, of course). But I would like you to have a "service" attitude as well; whether that's helping out with chores or surprising me with a foot massage after work or giving me flowers to make me smile... just to name a few examples. The sky's the limit. That extends all the way to "the bedroom" too. I want my pleasure to be just as important to you as your own.

In short? I just want to feel doted on and taken care of in more ways than one. I want to be the most important person in your life and you be the most important person in my life. I want to make you feel special and praise you and tell you how much you mean to me. And with that, I want the same in return. 💓

● "KINKS" AKA TURN-ONS ●

Since this is inevitably gonna come up at some point, I'll say when it comes to my kinks (if you even want to call them that) the main ones I have are:

Teasing, edging, telling you when you can cum and you begging for it, moaning, praise, light sensory deprivation (like blindfolds), eye contact, body worshiping, breast play, oral, fingering and using toys on you... there may be a few other things I'm willing to try at some point. Just ask.

Things I do NOT like at ALL are:

Humiliation, degradation, anything that will cause me or you mental or physical harm, blood, pee, scat, vomit, diapers, CNC, ageplay, raceplay, hitting, slapping, choking or anything else illegal, unethical or otherwise not loving or gentle.

● IN CONCLUSION ●

If you read this far, good job! Here's a cookie, hope you like chocolate chip. 🍪

Seriously, though, I can't name every little thing I want. Despite what the length of this post might suggest, I'm not trying to play Build-A-Boy. I realize you'll have your own ideals and caveats and that's totally fine. Let's get to know each other and see what happens. All I ask, again, is you want/are looking for a serious, long-term relationship and not just some "kink dispenser" or "mommy dominatrix."

Chats or DMs are fine. When you send me a message, please include the following...

• Name or alias • Age • Location • Height, body type or weight, hair and eye color • Interests • Whether you're a sub, switch or just interested in a female led relationship • What you're looking for in a relationship and something (or things) you enjoyed about my post • A clear, SFW picture of yourself. • Confirmation you're willing to come visit in a relatively short timeframe in order for us to get to know each other in person • Whatever else you want to add to catch my attention. The more you're able to match my energy, the better.

I won't reply to those who don't include what I asked for above and also those who ignore my general preferences. For the sake of fairness, though, I'll give you time to make sure you include everything you want to say in your initial message.

Thank you so much for reading this, and I hope you have a good day/night!

• Dreamer

(P.S. I don't use Snap, Kik, Telegram, WhatsApp, FB Messenger or whatever the hell else is out there so DON'T ask. I only use Discord or my cell number, the latter I only give to people I know in real life.)