Hello Ladies of Reddit,

Warning: this post contains raw honesty. It's also taken me a good while to get here, so please (as I'm sure you will) be respectful.

I'm 40 now and have throughout my adult life Dommed other women (more precisely I've Topped them), I had for so many years convinced myself I was a Dom. This I must state was never out of an attempt to deceive; you see despite facing various challenges in my life (apologies if this is crass but read as 'waded through a lot of shit') I've done quite well for myself, own my own place, climbed fairly high in my career etc. Basically I've always maintained a good deal of control over my life and my ambitions despite life's challenges. While I've always enjoyed topping, there has been for as far as I can remember a very deep and probably somewhat repressed desire to give up control, serve, and submit. I think for so many years I have mischaracterized dominance for resilience and determination, and failed to realise the fact that these two core traits can be reconciled with submission - and in doing so this does not make me any less of a man.

Now, I've given you something of a picture of where I'm coming from, I'd like to discuss a little about what I'm looking for. In short, a Queen/Princess to devote myself to. I guess my ideal dynamic would be more akin to a knight and his Queen/Princess/Lady, who he has sworn his devotion and service to, alongside this I'd be keen for aspects more around gentle femdom, rather than harshness and cruelty; although I respect and understand the need for cruelty for the purposes of punishment for behaviour modification where I have erred, or displeased my Queen in some way.

I'm not going to spell out my kinks here, partly because it's something I prefer to discuss in private, but mostly because I really want my needs to be secondary to yours, indulging my fantasies and fetishes should be at your whim.

As for what I can offer you, while obviously extremely inexperienced in submitting I'm very well read in aspects of BDSM. I like to think I'm a reasonable conversationalist, I hold a master's degree in a scientific discipline, I have a good job and thus am very much sfw. I deeply enjoy the cinema and the theatre and will happily talk your head off about film. I have a very broad taste in music that rages from classical to 80s rock. Other than that I'm a keen cook and ok mixologist, so hope you like the occasional cocktail. I'm not as well travelled as I'd like but keen to visit and broaden my experience in this regard. Furthermore, I have been told on several occasions that I have a gift for massage and do enjoy giving them (and no not necessarily as a prelude to sex). Finally I like to think I have a very wild and creative imagination, which I would be eager to put to use for your entertainment.

Some final thoughts - ideally I'm looking for something in person. This was somewhat difficult for me to admit and write so please be patient if you choose to contact me. Findom and similar such approaches will be met with disinterest and will ultimately be a waste of your time.

Thank you sincerely for your time.