Hi :)

About me, I’m a Sadistic Dom, I’m Pan, I’m Poly, I’m happy to send some photos via DM, I am looking for an in person BDSM dynamic, whether that’s play partners or a deeper relationship I’m open. So yeah please be close by or willing to travel.

I think it’s interesting that in a lot of activities the “safety talk” is a boring barrier to starting to have fun, people have to listen and go through it before getting to the real thing. However in BDSM I think it’s really exciting if the safety talk is the first part of the foreplay. It’s so interesting, and I think exciting, to start to discuss what we both like, what we want, where we would like to go, what’s too much, what’s totally off limits and who we are and who we want to become. Progressing through the talk and on into reality in a smooth way feels so nice and arousing.

And yeah it’s completely fine if you’re confused about what you want, if it’s hard to put words on it, if it changes over time, if there’s a lot of exploration left to do, if your feelings change and what is thrilling today is a limit tomorrow. All that is fine and in fact encouraged. You can set whatever boundaries you want, for no reason, you can change them any time and it’s always fine to say no, stop or slow down whenever you want. Looking after you is the most important part of the dynamic for me, trust is hard to build and easy to destroy, so yeah nurturing and protecting it is so important to me.

My main kink is getting to know someone’s sexuality and kinks really well, I love to explore someone and really pay attention to exactly what buttons, fantasies and dreams they have. Then I love to take them and put a sadistic twist on them and feed them back so they’re electrifyingly, deliciously, dark and hot. For me sadism isn’t about pain directly, it’s about forming a deep, close, emotional connection and really feeding off each other, feeding off suffering, desire, arousal, need, toe curling levels of sexual intensity and deep peace. All the toys and techniques are just tools to help build the mental side of the dynamic, which is the core of it to me.

Then there’s aftercare, I’m a real snuggle bear, I want things to be warm, caring, nurturing, fun, happy. I always want there to be no pressure, if we meet maybe it’s nice just to talk, just to cuddle, just to enjoy being close to each other. And maybe it’s fun to blindfold you, tie you up, hold you down and just run my finger so gently down your spine, so softly you can only just feel it, when the air is thick with anticipation and tension and what is about to happen will be …

Well I guess message to find out haha.