6’4’’/193cm open-minded dominant/rigger/sadist enjoying fitness, partner dancing, and kink. By day, I work in STEM/tech, and I love finding creative solutions to complex problems. 📍South/Central London.

I'm looking primarily for a female nesting/primary partner, open to female play friends, and male friends. See below for further info.

Feel free to reach out—I'm always up for a good chat and love getting to know new people. I’m not shy, and I hope you aren’t either! If you want to know more about my thoughts and experiences, check out my writings below.

Vanilla about me

• Ambitious, adventurous, but also enjoying goofing/fooling around.
• Working in tech remotely for US companies, traveling around the EU, UK, and US. Originally Croatian.
• into a healthy diet, fitness, no smoking, drugs, nor alcohol(usually)
• current hobbies - shibari, philosophy podcast/books, bachata dancing.
  • previous hobbies - museum crawling, BJJ, basketball (both parents used to play it), painting, drawing, improv comedy, public speaking (Toastmasters), salsa dancing, and others
• current reading: The Burnout Society (Byung-Chul Han)
  • previous recent reading: Cal Newport's work, Benjamin Franklin's biography, and Bullet Journal book.

I'm curious about who has influenced your thinking the most and why!

Kink about me

Delved head-first into kink since I've moved to London. I used to go to 3 munches and 1-2 parties per week; these days I'm way more chill about it. I believe, especially when it comes to BDSM, the mental aspect is just as important and my kinks reflect as such. Here's the summary in broad strokes (it's a buffet, not a requirement list).

• Bondage/Shibari
  • Huge things for me; regular at Anatomie studio, Studio Yukari, and other rope events. I like sensual, sadistic rope, predicaments, (partials or simpler full) suspensions, and how flexible it is.
• Dominance
  • Wrestling, physically overpowering is hot! Getting that look on subs' faces when they realize how helpless they are.
  • I enjoy both putting bratty subs in their place, as well as good well-behaved girls deserving of praise
  • Into discipline, orgasm control, praise, cuddles, and giggles. Sometimes sensual, sometimes strict.
  • Want to explore sub-training, rule setting, and more intense/involved D/s arrangements
• Sadism
  • Have enjoyed usual light-to-mid sadism, bare hands, paddles, floggers, etc.
  • Into emotional sadism/humiliation/degradation. Enjoying the cathartic release, connection, and closeness.
  • Want to explore mid-to-heavy sadism, canes, and carnal satisfaction of having someone wailing in pain.

Aftercare is also a huge aspect, and I'm a huge sucker for pillow talk and cuddling to sleep; heck I'll even make you hot chocolate or tea after :).

What I'm looking for

I'm looking for 3 broad categories in priority order:

• female primary/nesting partner:
  • I’m drawn to someone ambitious (overachiever even), intelligent, and has a great sense of humor. I value emotional maturity and someone who is kind, nurturing, and knows how to handle life’s quirks with grace (as I’m a bit quirky myself, thanks to ADHD/ASD).
  • Physically, I’m attracted to someone who leads a healthy lifestyle and enjoys staying active—whether that’s hiking, yoga, or just enjoying the outdoors. Age-wise, I'm looking for someone around 25-32 and about 5'8'' to 6'2''.
  • I’m open to having kids if it feels right for both of us, but only if we’re in a good place with strong community support and financial stability. I don’t want to be a burnt-out parent!
  • ENM/poly wise I value autonomy and independence. I want a relationship where we can be each others' priority, give each other a sense of stability, and be there for each other when things get rough. The dreamer in me loves the idea of a close-knit partnership and maybe even communal living someday, though nuclear-style nesting is most realistic in current society.

• female play friend/partner:

  • I’m also open to connections that are less intense/intertwined/enmeshed but still meaningful. Mutually supporting, emotional friendship with fun play elements! I’m open to a wider range of ages and heights for this type of connection. Let’s support each other and see where things go.

• male friends:

  • I’d love to connect with men who share similar interests or have been through the ups and downs of life and can offer some wisdom. While I know it might be a long shot here, I’m open to finding those connections anywhere.