I'm effectively a married guy, in a long term relationship that’s settled into a routine with a distinct lack of sex, so I’m here looking for a friend, fun, a little excitement, as well an outlet to release some sexual frustration after a long build up of it. Someone to chat and flirt with, and just generally brighten up both our days. I'd want to talk about normal day to day things, our lives, what we’re up to, all the routine and mundane stuff, as well as the NSFW things. I want this to be long term, as I'd rather get to know someone over time.

Ideally this would move towards a real world meeting up and us becoming friends with benefits, though I do dislike that term. It would need to stay discreet and safe for obvious reasons. I work mostly from home in the week in tech, but I do travel into London to the office a couple of days most weeks.

I'm a bit of a nerd, and I enjoy cooking, and by extension, have a general interest in food & drink. I also enjoy travel as well as watching films. Beyond that and work, I'm just a regular guy with a normal life and a lot of the normal day to day routine. I'm not going to claim to be some super cool guy, my humour can be cringe worthy and I have a very questionable taste in music at times, though hopefully that’s all endearing.

The usual cliché applies of course, in that I’m not looking to change our situations or turn our lives upside down. I don’t want to leave my partner, or you yours, but I am missing something, and I guess if you’re reading this, you are too. I'm pretty open about most things, so if there's anything you want to know, ask away.

As for what I’m wanting from who I meet here, I don’t have a list really, I’m quite open to most people, so please don’t be put off, let’s chat and see if we get on. Above all I’m looking for someone who’ll commit to this and is a genuinely nice person. If we get chatting and you feel things aren't working for whatever reason, please just tell me and I'll do the same.