I’m 60, in the West Country, married, retired early to become a full-time carer to my disabled wife.
In a dead bedroom (it's nobody’s fault).
I miss the intimacy that we used to share.
Anyone who has been a family carer will understand how the role redefines a relationship into a more functional exchange, at the expense of all else. .
So, I'm not here to offload on you - it’s more about practising Self-Care (if you’ve heard of the concept).
The better care I take of myself, the better carer I can be.

I’m educated, inquisitive, caring, literate, a mine of random information.
I’m open about my situation and interested in yours, but I won’t pry.
I like talking about relationships and intimacy, as well as whatever else is going on, so if that is something you don’t enjoy, then have a lovely day.
I have a very dry sense of humour. It might take you a while to catch on….
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I’m 5’11” tall (in the morning), blue / grey eyes behind the glasses, dark hair other than the ‘distinguished’ grey bits.
Average body, with one interesting scar, which is disappearing with time.
I have been told I have nice eyes, and a pleasant smile that I don’t show enough.

What am I looking for?
A kind, smart, funny, kind, confident, flirty, HLF with time to talk and share.
Someone who doesn’t take themselves too seriously.
Someone who likes to tease and who can stand to be teased.
Someone who enjoys proper conversation, and who dislikes one word answers.
Someone who enjoyed intimate sharing.
Someone with similar issues with the health of their bedroom, for whatever reason, and who is happy to talk about to and is looking to find something to compensate.
Someone comfortable with their sexuality and happy to share it with the right person.
Someone comfortable with their body.
Something online only. We’re not ever going to meet.

I’m looking for a long term connection.
A slow ‘getting to know you’.
Where we can chat as we can while getting on with our ‘day jobs’, whatever they are….
Not casual exactly, but definitely unpressured, which allows for normal life to carry on all around (in my case, it’s usually home caring duties).

I don’t like ‘hit and run’ encounters, and I don’t ghost (truly. I am *that** guy…..!)*.
I'm old enough and ugly enough to be able to say "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me”.
If you ghost, then please don't bother.

An early SFW picture swap would be appreciated.
It’s nice to put a face to someone on the other end of a conversation.
And, let’s be honest, mutual attraction is only going to make things easier.

Let me know how closely my post fits what you’re looking for.
Your age, general location, and current relationship situation would be a good start, and anything else about yourself that you want to share.
If you have pre-set firm boundaries, please share them.
I’m not here to cause offence to anyone.
And I’m a Brit. Good manners are inbred…….

I would hope to move away from this platform as fast as you’re comfortable.
Not least because Reddit mobile has become totally unreliable recently, and holding a proper conversation is frustrating when that happens.
(I'm definitely not of the S@@p / K@k generation - I prefer T@l@gr@m for its features and security).

I will acknowledge all messages, so if I don’t reply quickly, it’s only because I’m doing my ‘day job’.…….

Thanks for reading this far, and I look forward to hearing from you.
It is a long post, and if you haven’t been put off by that, then that’s a plus.

You never know, I might be a nice guy…….
I look forward to hearing from you.

Chats preferred initially to DMs.

No sellers. I’m not a buyer…..